Alone

Does being single ever make you feel alone and out of place in a world filled with couples?  Do you wonder if it is really God’s will for you to be alone?

Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:8 that it is better to remain single.  But, Paul also says in 1 Corinthians 7 that it is better to get married than to sin.   Jesus said in Matthew 19:10-12 when asked if it was better to remain single than to marry that some people could remain single and be fine not having sex but others could not and should be married.

So, it looks like being alone is a good way to be if you are so inclined.  And, you could find your life to be more blessed if you are alone and doing God’s will for your life.

While many think alone equates with lonely, I found the opposite to be true.  I found when I traveled alone, people were always talking to me.  I met many interesting people who came up to me because I was alone.  When I traveled with someone else, people were hesitant to interrupt.  So, alone can be blessed and does not have to be lonely.  Some others I know have been very much more active when they were single than when they were married.  Marriage has a way of tying you down, keeping you at home with household chores and doing things together.  One of the singles I am thinking about traveled all over the world before she got married.  Then, it stopped because he didn’t want to spend the money.

So, alone is not necessarily a bad or lonely experience.  Ask God if you are in His will being single or if He wants you to marry.  Ask God to help you find a mate if that is His desire for your life.  If it is not God’s will for you to marry, ask Him to show you how to have a full, happy, joy filled life being single.

Over half of marriages end in divorce, so marriage is not just a life filled with bliss.  Alone can be just a good…or better.

Discussion:

Are you happy being single?  Do you feel out of place being alone?  Now that you have read that it is sometimes God’s will that some people remain single and that many singles enjoy life more, do you think you can be happy being alone?  Is there something God would have you to do to enjoy your life more?  How do you feel about being alone?